Tonight I'm feeling a little home sick but I'm sure it will pass. As the card from my mum says 'Without the rain there would never be Rainbows'. I may be feeling sad and lonely tonight but as with rain it will pass, the sun will shine, and something wonderful will appear.
I recently had a conversation with my boyfriend about how we perceive that some peoples lives are so easy and that they just seem to get 'The Life' and on with life. They never seem to falter or make mistakes, but this is not true, no ones life is easy and perfect. Even the richest person in the world will have issues of some sort. Even that friend or family member you think is perfect has struggled at some point.
The conversation arose out of, well lots of things but partly Christmas cards. Around Christmas some people send family news letters in their Christmas cards explaining all about their 'perfect family', 'perfect children', their doctors, lawyers, living in London. Yet here I am, actually doing quite well, although I am not in London, I am not a Doctor or Lawyer, and I do not want to be. Now, do not think that my parents are pushing me to be something because they are not, but there is a societal pressure that I should get a 'good job' (which for some reason means I would need to move to London), marry at some point, and have children.
I do not know what I want in life but I am still young. I think I might want to marry at some point and maybe have children, but that is a long way off in my mind. Right now I just want to start in the career that I am passionate about, and hopeful some day move in with the person I love, and live out a happy life with adventure, surrounded by those I love and care for.
Anyway I am a little off topic. What we discussed that night was that life is not easy. I have had a fortunate life but I still have had to work hard to get to where I am, and I have had to not give in. My boyfriend is aware of the struggles I have faced, the countless jobs I have applied for and rejections I have received. This is the issue though, when we compare ourselves to others we only see their success, we do not see what they have gone through their set backs, difficulties, and rejections. We just see the 'perfect' life, yet we do not tend to share our struggles. Think of the family news letter like social media, we only share happy polished stuff, after all it is Christmas, but we also do this all year. Why? Maybe shame, fear, or just that if it is not a happy topic we may just want to move on, forget and be happy.
Carrie Hope Fletcher spoke about something similar in a recent YouTube video (Getting Rejected). Carrie is a West End actor who has been in War of Worlds, Les Misérables, and The Adams Family. She is very talented and yes her family are too; her brother is Tom Fletcher (McFly, author) and sister in law, Giovanna Fletcher (author). Yet this does not mean she gets everything because of who she is. Carrie has worked hard to get to her position, and as mentioned in her recent video she still gets turned down. She does not get ever part she auditions for. Yes sometimes this may be because they want someone with red hair, but this happens outside of the theatre industry too. Sometimes employers reject people because they do not believe them to be a right fit for the team or the business, not because you do not have the skills.
Life is not easy. It will never be, but it is the greatest adventure you will ever have. If you work hard, keep going, I do believe that hard work pays off. Think about professional musicians, dancers and writers, it is the hours of work that they put in that make them great. I watched a interview recently with Candice Neistat. She was saying about how she just keeps going because she has to, she takes tasks day by day, she just makes things work, but through hard work.
No one will give you anything in this life. You must earn it. You must be a fighter. But do not feel ashamed or scared to tell people about your journey or to ask for help. Others may be able to help. Remember, most of all, not to compare yourself to others (easier said then done, but true). You can only be yourself and you will only be happy being as such.
Work hard, keep learning, keep adapting, and be kind. You will get to where you want to be. You will see your rainbow.